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How to Create a Gender-Neutral Wedding Party

How to Create a Gender-Neutral Wedding Party

Same-Sex Marriage with Champagne FlutesYour wedding day is intended to celebrate you and your spouse in any manner that you desire. If a conventional wedding party isn’t for you, Handfastings and Weddings encourages you to defy gender roles within your wedding.

The age-old tradition of a standard wedding party is not practical for many couples and it is important to explore what your options are outside of that.

Ways to Switch Up Your Wardrobes

Coordinating a gender-neutral wardrobe for a wedding is easier than you may think; don’t overthink it. If your wedding consists of a specific color theme, which most do, have both men and women wear similar color which will help everyone to blend together when standing side by side. Don’t require the men to wear suits and don’t require the women to wear dresses. Instead, let everyone wear what they feel most comfortable in. Don’t be afraid to get creative and have fun. Seek the opinions of those in your party and see what they’re thinking!

Give Gender Neutral Gifts

Once again, tradition states that couples should gift their bridesmaids and groomsmen a “special something” for playing a special role in the wedding. However, don’t feel like you need to choose gifts based on gender. It is simpler to gift all those involved a nice bottle of champagne or liquor, depending on that person’s taste, and a personalized glass. There is also no reason to feel obligated to give everyone the same gift. We are all individuals after all. Consider choosing small gifts that accurately represent your relationship with that individual, it will absolutely mean more to them.

Combine the Beforehand Celebrations

Finding activities that both men and women enjoy doing together can be surprisingly difficult. While generally the maid of honor and the best man plan the events leading up to the wedding, such as the bachelor/bachelorette party, you might want to chime in on your preferences to ensure all parties are happy. Consider having a co-ed party and plan a night out on the town for the entire wedding party to enjoy together. You’ll have a blast because you’ll have the people you care most about by your side and it will help everyone to get to know one another before the big day.

Regardless of what decisions you make leading up to your wedding, be sure to follow your own vision as a couple. At Handfastings and Weddings, Rev. Debra S. Lippitt can help you design a ceremony just for you. To start planning your general-neutral wedding, get in touch with us today!

The Origins Behind the Handfasting Ceremony

The Origins Behind the Handfasting Ceremony

So you have decided that you want to add a handfasting ceremony to your marriage nuptials. Good for you! Handfasting is a wonderful experience that genuinely bonds the hearts of those who are truly in love. Handfasting is a great experience, but have you ever wondered about the origins of handfasting? Let’s dive into the… Continue Reading

Before You Start Writing Your Wedding Vows, Consider these Tips

It’s easy to dive into wedding planning such as venue-booking and florist-picking once you get engaged, but you should also make writing your wedding vows a priority. The vow exchange is one of the most heartfelt parts of your ceremony, and there are several things you will want to consider beforehand. Consider these tips for… Continue Reading

Why Roses are the Pagan Wedding Flower of Choice

If you’ve ever attended a pagan wedding ceremony before, then you’ve probably noticed that those getting married often choose to incorporate roses. Many couples love including a rose gifting ceremony into their vows, which solidifies the love they have for their families, and each other. Here are just a few of the reasons why so… Continue Reading

Handfastings According to the Pagan Sabbats

Handfastings are beautiful ceremonies that are held to celebrate the commitment and love that two people share. In some cases, they are simply meant to be a symbol of that commitment, while in others, they are utilized as an official marriage ceremony in conjunction with a civil ceremony that brings two people together. Many people… Continue Reading

The Pagan Sabbat of Imbolc

The Pagan Sabbat of Imbolc

Every year, there are eight festivals, known as sabbats, which are celebrated by pagans. Imbolc is held in February, and it’s meant to serve as a reminder that winter is almost over with spring not far away. It’s also meant to serve as a time for those who practice paganism to go through a spiritual… Continue Reading