It’s easy to dive into wedding planning such as venue-booking and florist-picking once you get engaged, but you should also make writing your wedding vows a priority. The vow exchange is one of the most heartfelt parts of your ceremony, and there are several things you will want to consider beforehand.
Consider these tips for writing vows for your pagan wedding ceremony below.
Clarify That You Both Want Personalized Vows
Before walking the aisle, make sure you and your partner are on the same page regarding writing your vows. You won’t want to be reciting a novel of your truest feelings if your partner chooses to recite traditional vows. Decide this early on so you have enough time to consider what you want to say and also avoid hurting each other’s feelings.
Meet With Your Officiant Prior to the Wedding
Because your marriage is also a contract, you may have to say certain things in order to make your vows official. Meet with your officiant early on to decide who will be saying what so there’s no confusion the day of your ceremony.
Answer Some Key Questions
It’s journal time! Sit down with a pen and paper and answer some key questions to help create inspiration for your vows. You should jot down answers to questions like:
- What does this marriage mean to me?
- When did I know I wanted to marry this person?
- What do I love most about my fiance?
Always, Always Be Yourself
Be honest in your vows, but also be true to who you are. Don’t aim to become the next Shakespeare because you feel like you need to say something deeply profound for your partner and guests. If you speak your truth with honesty and love, the whole room will be moved.
Still need help? Handfastings and Weddings can aid in the writing of your wedding vows for pagan weddings! Call us at (610)532-9598 or shoot us a note via our contact form!