Handfasting Ceremonies

Share in a beautiful handfasting ceremony with your bride or groom-to-be with Rev. Debra S. Lippitt, a legally ordained minister of non-denominational services in Collingdale, Pennsylvania. Dedicated to making each ceremony special and unique to each couple, my Temple of Gaia Incorporated is a legal 501c3 non-profit organization ready to create the perfect ceremony for you since 1997.

An ancient ritual of commitment and love between like-minded souls, handfasting is performed within a sacred circle and witnessed by the elements of the four directions: north, east, west and south. Handfasting ceremonies result in either non-state registered commitment ceremonies or fully legal marriage ceremonies.

Handfasting is the marriage rite used today by many couples often in addition to a civil ceremony. A custom steeped in old tradition, this ceremony involves tying a knot around the bride and groom’s hands while the ritual takes place.

See below for an example of a sample handfasting ceremony. Note that you may add or subtract to this ceremony as you wish to tailor this special ritual to your liking/beliefs. Please contact us with any questions using the provided Contact Us form or call (610) 532-9598.

Sample Handfasting

HPs: Friends, family, loved ones. We are all here today to see two people, Bride and Groom, join hands and be bound together by their love, now and forever. Before we begin the ceremony, we will turn this place into sacred ground. As I cast the circle, please take a moment to visualize loving, positive energy for Bride and Groom.

HPs cast the circle, either out loud or in silence.

HPs: The circle has been cast, and this is now a sacred space. We will now take a moment to consecrate the rings.

HPs consecrate the rings with the four elements or by other method called for by the couple’s tradition.

HPs: The circle itself is an infinite thing. It is magical and never-ending, never changing and yet always adaptable, a ring with no beginning and no conclusion. Like the circle, true love itself is infinite. It goes on, knowing no boundaries or restrictions. It flourishes and blooms in the light and in the dark, laying down no ultimatums, making no demands at all. Love, in its infinite form, is something that cannot be forced. It cannot be taken away. It is a gift we give to ourselves, and an honor we give to others from the bottom of our hearts and souls.

When two people come together and give one another this gift, this most sacred gift of all, it is certain the universe is sitting back and smiling upon us, laughing and showering us with every possible blessing.

Today is a day to celebrate the love of Bride and Groom. They are two people who are the halves of a whole. Two souls, coming together, to form one single being; two hearts, beating in a single rhythm. They are together as one, and so they will now light a candle of unity, to show the universe that they indeed are one light burning brightly in the darkness.

If the couple is lighting a unity candle, do this now.

HPs: Today, we ask that the infinite light of the divine shine upon this union. In that spirit, I offer a blessing to this ceremony.

Blessed be this marriage with the gifts from the east — new beginnings that come each day with the rising sun, communication of the heart, mind, body and soul.

Blessed be this marriage with the gifts of the south — the light of the heart, the heat of passion, and the warmth of a loving home.

Blessed be this marriage with the gifts of the west — the rushing excitement of a raging river, the soft and pure cleansing of a rainstorm, and a commitment as deep as the ocean itself.

Blessed be this marriage with the gifts of the north — a solid foundation on which to build your lives, abundance and growth of your home, and the stability to be found by holding one another at the end of the day.

Bride, Groom, these four simple blessings will help you on your journey that begins today. However, they are only tools. They are tools which you must use together to create the light, the strength, the infinite energy now and forever of a love you both so richly deserve.

Now, I bid you look into one another’s eyes and hearts. Groom, please place the ring on Bride’s finger. Do you promise to show Bride your honor and fidelity, to share her laughter and joy, to support and stand by her in times of difficulty, to dream and hope together with her, and to spend each day loving her more than the day before?

Groom responds, hopefully in the affirmative!

HPs: Bride, please give Groom the ring. Do you, Bride, promise to show Groom your honor and fidelity, to share his hopes and dreams, to laugh with him and share endless days of joy, to stand side by side with him in times of trouble, and to spend each day loving him more than the day before?

Bride responds. If the couple has written vows they wish to speak to one another, now is the time to do this.

HPs: The vows of love have been spoken. I ask you now to cross your hands over each other, and take one another’s hands.

HPS wraps the cord around the bride and grooms wrists, binding them together loosely and tying a knot.

HPs: Bride, Groom, this cord ribbons symbolizes so much. It is your life, your love, and the eternal connection that the two of you have found with one another. The ties of this handfasting are not formed by these ribbons, or even by the knots connecting them. They are formed instead by your vows, by your pledge, your souls, and your two hearts, now bound together as one.

As one last bond, Groom, will you please kiss Bride?

Couple kisses, HPs unwraps cord without untying knot and hands it to the bride.

The couple now jumps the broom.

HPs: Please turn to face your friends and family who love you. Ladies and gentlemen, I present to you Mr. and Mrs._______________!

And now, we will dismiss this sacred space. As I close the circle, please send all of your loving energy towards our newly handfast couple, so that they may begin their life together with all of your blessings and warm wishes.

HPS goes around the circle, dismissing the quarters.

HPs: The circle has been dismissed. Friends, please take a moment to congratulate Bride and Groom!