You may write any vows that you wish, use one of those below, or the one in the ceremony you picked. Sometimes a couple will write a short statement to say to each other in the ceremony. Remember, a marriage is a promise that you make to each other so the vows should reflect the commitment and promise you are making to each other. You do not have to write your own vows if you do not wish to and may simply use the vows already in the ceremony.
Below are the traditional vows of various denominations. The subtle distinction between them are insightful and reflect the flavor of each denomination.
NON-DENOMINATIONAL VOW SELECTIONS:
“Do you, _______, take _______ to be your wife/husband? Do you promise to love, honor, cherish and protect her/him, forsaking all others and holding only unto her/him?” (“I do”)
(Repeat) “I ________, take thee ________, to be my wife/husband. To have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, and I promise my love to you..”
(Ring) With this ring, I thee wed; all my love, I do thee give.”
“_______, do you come here freely and without reservation? (“I do”)
(Repeat) “I _______, take you _______, to be my wife/husband. To share the good times and hard times side by side as husband and wife. I humbly give you my hand and my heart as a sanctuary of warmth and peace, and pledge my faith and love to you.”
(Rings) “Just as this circle is without end, my love for you is eternal. Just as it is made of incorruptible substance, my commitment to you will never fail. With this ring, I thee wed.”
(Repeat) “Before our friends and those so special to us here, on this wonderful day of gladness and good fortune, I ______ take you _______ as my wife/husband, in friendship and in love, in strength and weakness, to share the good times and misfortune, in achievement and failure, to celebrate life with you forever more (Ring) With this ring, I thee wed.”